If you are lucky enough to cross the path of Mistress Alina on the deck of DS, you would want to be prepared to give your absolute best impression to Her. If reading through Her very interesting and educational profile did not give you enough clues on how you might spark Her interest, the wonderful interview She gave us the honor to respond to will help you without a doubt. Also, I am extremely grateful for her generosity to offer us more, via this interview. I am sure you will be as much impressed as I was by Her incredible understanding of the philosophy of D/s and by Her crystal clear way to explain it.

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frenchy:  Greetings Mistress Alina and thank you so much for agreeing to give some of your precious time to respond to this interview.

Alina: Hello frenchy, you are welcome.

frenchy: So let me start by asking this. How would you present yourself as a person to someone you meet for the first time?

Alina: I hope that I present myself in a way that tells you not to waste my time with trivial conversation. I am not here to make small talk or make friends. These things come naturally on their own as you meet like-minded people.

frenchy:  Do you need/like to be in control of every aspect of your life?  In other words, are you a control freak? ☺

Alina: :LOL. what a question… of course I am a control freak!

frenchy: (smiles) Then, are you a very organized person who plans in advance or do you prefer to improvise?

Alina: I typically improvise. Even at work, before a meeting, I consider myself “already prepared” and will wing my meetings fully confident that I can answer any question and lead the conversation in whichever direction I want it to go. This is part of my personality and it has served me well so far.

frenchy:  How does SL impact your RL and your RL influence your SL?

Alina: That’s an interesting question. I like to think that I am the same person in SL as I am in RL, which is fundamentally true. However, the topics that I discuss and the activities I participate in are surely separated between these two worlds.

frenchy:  Except BDSM, what do you like to do in SL?

Alina: I am here for D/s. I enjoy discussing D/s and exploring D/s. If I want to play a game, discuss movies or go dancing, I can do it in my RL.

frenchy:   In a world mainly composed of macho societies, it might not be easy just to realize for a woman that she can be dominant. Could you tell us how you discovered that side of you and how it has changed your life?

Alina: My introduction into D/s was in the form of submissiveness. As I explored that part of my personality, my owner recognized that I had dominant traits and suggested that I express them. Once I did that, I found that I was extremely good at it and enjoyed the dominance that I exerted. From there, I  became very interested in the psychology of D/s… the how and why. This opened up the doors for me as I wanted to experience and explore every dark corner to see how and why it worked.

frenchy:  How would you present yourself as a Mistress to someone you meet for the first time or in other words, what is your style of domination?

Alina: Another difficult question… How I present myself the first time is entirely dependent on who the person is, how they present themselves to me and, of course, what kind of mood I am in at the moment. I try to always be polite and will maintain that attitude until the person gives me reason to act differently.

I really don’t know that I have a “style” per se. I guess you would have to ask those that have been under my heel to answer that question. My goal is to explore fetishes and the roots of those fetishes. To do this, I employ a heavy mix of physical, emotional and psychological D/s to crack the submissive and then I have fun looking around inside, exploring deeper and deeper and unraveling all the little secrets they hide inside.

frenchy:  Are you a female supremacist? Could you explain the difference between female supremacy and what we could call “female entitlement” (smile) ?

Alina: I am not. I am just me. I don’t believe any one generalized attribute such as gender can determine whether you are above another. I do believe, in general, that women are smarter and more in-tune with the emotional and psychological aspects of D/s whereas men typically prefer the physical. However, I have seen many women that are more clueless than a child and many men that have an absolute clear line to the D/s philosophy.

frenchy: What brought you the desire to dominate men? Is it for example because they disappointed you and are better to be led or is it because you have always preferred this kind of relationship?

Alina:  Honestly, as i said, i do not discriminate between men and women. Each has their own psychological distinction and offers their own unique exploration into D/s. While there is a difference in “how” to dominate a man vs a woman, the end goals are the same and if you truly want to explore the dominant side of D/s to its fullest, you will need to experience dominating both.

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frenchy:  Do you own slaves at this moment? If so, are you open to consider a new slave if the opportunity comes up?

Alina:  I do and I couldn’t be more happy with her progress. I am extremely selective and I have to see a lot of potential in someone before even considering them and then, I have to see if the path I want to take them on is actually a path I want to go on. I hate to walk backwards. I have to admit, what I am looking for isn’t exactly rare… it’s just that I haven’t met many people in SL that are at that level yet.

frenchy:  What is your best/worse memory about a D/s relationship that you had?

Alina:  Best memory – that moment when my slave crossed a line in D/s that could not be uncrossed… the power exchange was beyond anything i can’t even explain.

Worst memory – when I realized that no matter how well connected a domme is with their slave, there will come a point when one outgrows the other and at that point, the bond will weaken and eventually die.

frenchy: Oh but that sounds a bit pessimistic? Isn’t it actually true for any human relationship and not only D/s? Or do you see something special to D/s here?

Alina:  D/s is obviously special. In this regard, a D/s relationship is formed so that each, the dominant and submissive, can fulfill a need within themselves through the domination/submission of the other. Because of this, when one outgrows the other, that need becomes greater and it is unrealistic to expect that the partner will be able to fulfill that in you. It isn’t malicious but… that void can be consuming if it is not fulfilled.

frenchy:  How do you deal with slaves who top from the bottom? Do you think there are ways to cure them from this bad habit?

Alina:  Ha ! good luck! There are many cures to this… the last of them being goodbye.

frenchy:  What is the most difficult part in being a Mistress?

Alina:  Well, to be honest, being a Mistress is extremely difficult. A lot of people assume that I’m being waited on hand and foot. But really, the level of responsibility that I take over my slaves life and their overall well being takes a lot out of me. Not only do I need to balance the slave’s lifestyle, I also need to create and define a path for them to follow so that they can walk the path of D/s with me and then constantly monitor and adjust based on their reactions.

frenchy:  Is being a Mistress just a SL thing or does it carry over to your RL?

Alina:  So, I was a RL Mistress years ago. I had a RL live in slave. It was an amazing experience. I didn’t find the D/s lifestyle and being a mother to be compatible with each other, so I gave up the RL aspects to become slaves to my children (grumbles) and use SL to continue exploring myself in a D/s setting.

frenchy:  What interests you the most in a submissive man? In other words, which are the qualities that you find the most attractive in a slave?

Alina:  This is a great question. The very first thing I look for is intelligence. I hate stupidity. If they can pass that little requirement, I’m looking for sincerity in submission. Without this, there is nothing to build on.

frenchy:  What excite you the most, to inflict pain or the feeling to be in total control?

Alina:  Total control. Getting you to do something you don’t want to do, guiding you into doing it and then exploring your thoughts and feelings after you’ve done it. Anyone can beat you into submission… It takes skill and patience to guide someone beyond the physical aspects of D/s and unlock their true submission.

frenchy: Do you enjoy to humiliate or even to degrade men? If so, is it because it is a way to assert your power and superiority or because it can be considered as a mental pain they deserve because of the damaging effect of their male ego? If not can you explain why?

Alina:  Hmmm… this is a silly question. Or perhaps it is worded incorrectly. I enjoy humiliation and degradation. It has nothing to do with asserting power or superiority. I enjoy it because i enjoy exploring the psychological and emotional effects they create.

frenchy: (blushes slightly and smiles)  Do you get often discouraged about men’s behaviors or don’t you have any illusions about them anymore?

Alina:  Absolutely. If you take 100 of these so called male subs/slaves… only 1 of them will have the qualities that I really seek. And even they display the traits of an idiot. I won’t name this particular man I met here in SL not too long ago. When I spoke to him, I could sense the sincerity in his submission. His profile did not reflect that at all and he couldn’t find the Mistress he was looking for. I helped him update his profile into what I would expect from someone like him and now I can see that he is owned. I get tired of boys coming before me with blank profiles, useless profiles or even worse, the seeking strict mistress profiles. I always say, what you put in is what you get out.

frenchy:  Do you sometimes consider female slaves? If so, are your expectations or/and training very different ?

Alina:  I love female slaves. Women are typically smarter than boys. a D/s relationship isn’t all D/s. there has to be some non D/s interaction going on, especially in my type of relationships where I have my fingers into everything from what you eat to what you do with your time.

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frenchy:  Do you like to include a RL component in your D/s relationship in SL? How far would that component go?

Alina:  I accept nothing less. The foundation of D/s is built upon trust. As such, I expect absolute and total control over my slaves RL. With that, the slave must trust – and I must take responsibility for – that I have their best interest at heart and that I would not do anything that would compromise their RL security or privacy nor would I put them into a situation which would cause them failures in their RL.

As for how far that component goes… let’s put it this way, I consider that a slave has no rights. instead, these former rights are considered to be privileges and that I have the right to grant or deny privileges as I see fit.

frenchy:  What are you favorite fetishes?

Alina:  What can I say… I love them all… Even the ones that nobody wants to mention. I find fetishes to be so fascinating. There is a reason that things turn people on and I want to know what they are… how they work… and why.  To answer your exact question, I would have to ask, what are your least favorite fetishes? Whichever those are will be my favorites for you to explore.

frenchy:  How important is role playing versus RL submission for you? Do you think role playing outside his comfort zone requires much sacrifice from a slave?

Alina:  I don’t enjoy RP at all. I find it to be a fantasy. If I want a fantasy, I can read a story or close my eyes and play a fantasy. I don’t need someone “closing their eyes as they lower their head” to help me explore my fantasies.

I require RL submission. If someone is unable, unwilling or incapable of that, they need not apply nor waste my time.

frenchy:  What could turn you off in a prospective slave?

Alina:  Stupidity and Insincerity.

frenchy:  How do you evaluate a prospective slave during the first days you know him? What are you looking at first?

Alina:  First days? I run evaluations for a much longer period of time. The first thing I am looking for is whether I believe the subject is in tune with me and is capable of submitting to the level I require. If I believe they are, I may enter into an evaluation. From here, I want to ensure that our online times are actually compatible. After that, I am in exploration mode… what makes you tick, what do you like, what do you not like, how do you react when I hit you, humiliate you, degrade you, abuse you…

frenchy:  Do you go to other BDSM or Femdom sim? What do you like the most at DS that you don’t find anywhere else?

Alina:  There are others? Do let me know where you can find any other real D/s sims.

frenchy:  (smiles) Do you like to use other’s Mistresses slave at DS or do you prefer to be served by those who are not owned to check them out?

Alina:  Only with the absolute rare exception will I never use someone else’s property.

frenchy:  What do you think about limits in BDSM? Are they necessary, useful or shouldn’t they exist in a meaningful D/s relationship between consenting adults who trust each other?

Alina:  I don’t accept a slave giving me limits. I do accept communication though and I will take that communication into consideration. However, I do consider my decision to be final. I’ve already stated that I want to explore all the things you don’t want to do… limits are a way for a sub to maintain control.

With that said, limits can serve an important function. They allow the submissive the ability to safely explore their fantasies / fetishes while maintaining absolute control over their submission. For those that are just starting to explore D/s, this is important.

frenchy:  You told us before you have once submitted to a man? Would you consider it again with the right person or is it now out of the question?

Alina:  Absolutely. My first RL Master was a godsend. He exposed me to this wonderful lifestyle and showed me that there wasn’t anything wrong with me… that this was in fact normal. And he introduced me to my dominance. I don’t think I would be the person I am without his guidance…..I have tried submitting to a man again but, not that it has anything to do with gender, it is not easy to dominate me. You have to be more dominant than I am to inspire my submission. If you’ve read my profile, you understand what I am talking about.

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frenchy:  Sometimes people say that a slave in a D/s relationship holds some control too. What is your opinion about that?

Alina: Well, we have to break the generic term D/s down if we are going to get technical. There is Dominant/submissive and then there is Mistress/slave. We clarify this as D/s vs M/s. If you understand this, then you also understand the difference between the submissive and the slave and the Dominant vs the Mistress.

In a D/s relationship, the submissive has all the control… they set the rules of their submission, get their nifty little safewords and set the scene… The dominant is there merely to fulfill the submissive’s needs. This in turn means that the submissive is actually the dominant.

In an M/s relationship, it is quite the opposite and the slave only has the control that their owner allows them. And, that control can be stripped away at will whether the slave likes it or not… agrees or not.

I know a lot of people feel that they are in complete control of their submissive and “respect” the limits that have been imposed on them. Perhaps the dominant even shares some of these limits… but the truth is, if the submissive is dictating the terms of their submission, I am sorry to say, but they are your dominant, not the other way around.

frenchy:  What in Your opinion, makes for a successful D/s relationship?

Alina:  Well look… a D/s relationship is something unique to the people that are involved. At the core of this relationship is the sincerity of the slave. Without that sincerity in submission, there really is nothing. With the core in place comes the foundation of trust. As this builds a relationship can be formed. However, the key to a successful D/s relationship (outside the core and the foundation) is counter equality. An advanced sub/slave is not going to do well with a dominant that is just starting their journey. And, vice versa, an advanced dominant is not truly going to grow with a brand new sub/slave. There must be a level of counter equality. If a chain is only as strong as the weakest link, and there is not counter-equality, neither can truly grow.

frenchy:  Can you be a sadist without being a Domme or vice versa?

Alina:  Absolutely. Most sadists aren’t actually dominant at all. they just get pleasure from causing pain to others and being dominant isn’t about causing pain, although we do love to give it.  A real Domme understands that D/s isn’t just about pain… its about exploring dominance and submission on a physical, emotional and psychological level. Sadism is but one aspect to a very large picture.

frenchy:   To finish, let me ask you the ritual question. (smiles) What is your philosophy of life? If you had to state a simple principle that you follow to conduct your life, what would it be?

Alina: “It is not enough to survive… we must excel.” I try to apply that to everything I do.

frenchy: (smiles and nods). Thank you very much Mistress Alina for your amazing and truly enlightening answers. We are learning a lot from them, about D/s and also about you! Good bye Mistress Alina

Alina: You’re very welcome frenchy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you have come to DS during the US Eastern Time evenings, you most certainly have had the pleasure to cross the path of the Divine Mistress Copper accompanied by her faithful slave nathan. However it happened, either by enduring her merciless teases or by enjoying her conversation adorned by an endless sense of humor,  she has undeniably not left you indifferent.

A few weeks ago, Divine Mistress Copper has  enthusiastically accepted to respond to my interview request and generously  invited me to her beautiful medieval castle surrounded by purple shadows. For those who haven’t had the opportunity to meet her yet but also for those who have, here is your chance to know more about the purple eyes Divine Mistress Copper…

Please enjoy the read!

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frenchy: Greetings Miss Copper, thank you so much for accepting this interview and for inviting me to your beautiful castle. I am sure many of us can’t wait to know more about you. So please, let me start. What is your country of origin and the culture that you belong to?

Mistress Copper : Hello frenchy ! I am a Canadian living in New Zealand at the moment. Next year I will make a small segway home for a while before I continue on to the UK for an undetermined amount of time. I really enjoy seeing new cultures and travel. My own culture is naturally polite, respectful of other peoples personal 3 feet of space so to speak …  ~laughs~ … Needless to say, some aspects of the things that I enjoy in the BDSM lifestyle are quite contradictory to how I have been raised ….

frenchy: Are you a very organized person who plans in advance or do you prefer to improvise?

Mistress Copper : I am a Gemini so I am both. Anything to do with travel or projects that need to be done I am very organized, but my style in BDSM is rare to never organized and practically totally improvised and spontaneous.

frenchy: How would you present yourself as a Mistress to someone you meet for the first time or in other words, what is your style of domination?

Mistress Copper : I am not the type to start barking orders at someone. My first time meets usually come off more like an interrogation, but I have often been told in a pleasant way … I fire off questions so we can bypass the minutiae of small talk and find out if there is a foundation worth building on some common ground. I don’t beat around the bush, if you know what I mean … not until I know you’re worth beating … ~winks

frenchy: Is for you BDSM a lifestyle or is it only something that you indulge yourself with in the bedroom?

Mistress Copper : I live the lifestyle in real life but naturally there is a balance of vanilla as well. It is by no means restricted to just the bedroom though.

frenchy: Do you own slaves at this moment? If so, are you open to consider a new slave if the opportunity comes up?

Mistress Copper : I do have a slave who is one of the best I have ever come across in my almost 10 years in SL. I think a slave is a reflection of yourself and your training, and he has made me proud to have him heeled at my side. I AM open to considering another slave, but he would have to be really worth my time and effort to be considered.

frenchy: What is the most difficult part in being a Mistress?

Mistress Copper : You have to be leading, guiding, training all of the time. If you don’t have decent feedback AND engagement from your slave it can get exhausting. A balance of interaction. I can’t stand a slave who just sits there and waits for the next order. I hate micromanagement. The slave is there for my entertainment …. they should at least attempt to amuse me without me having to instruct their every movement.

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frenchy: What interests you the most in a submissive man? In other words, which are the qualities that you find the most attractive in a slave?

Mistress Copper : I like my slaves to be alpha males. There is nothing more intoxicating than a big strong man, on his knee’s, begging to please me. Not broken … but deftly controlled, forced and conditioned to know his place. ( ~purrs~ mmmmmmm)

frenchy: What excites you the most, to inflict pain or the feeling to be in total control?

Mistress Copper : Control is my addiction, but don’t misunderstand that. I am the first person to say yes to some spontaneous suggestion someone else might make … but that control over a man …. especially one that isn’t a doormat (not into these at all) is a very heady drug …. Of course inflicting some pain at the right moments is always gratifying too … ~grins

frenchy: Do you get often discouraged about men’s behaviors or don’t you have any illusions about them anymore?

Mistress Copper : Men can be so predictable as a gender on whole. There ARE exceptions to the rule of course, but so few that I have found. I am not discouraged though and I certainly have no illusions. As a matter of fact, I particularly enjoy some of the consistencies that their on-mass behaviors tend toward. It is easy to use such things against them for manipulation and modification.

frenchy: Do you like to include a RL component in your D/s relationship in SL? How far would that component go?

Mistress Copper :  I DO enjoy some RL component in my SL D/s relationship. What fun is it to deny someone an orgasm in SL but not RL ???  ~laughs …. How far it goes totally depends on the slave. Naturally some have more flexibility/responsibilities than others.

frenchy: What could turn you off in a prospective slave?

Mistress Copper : Slaves that think by telling me what their fetishes are….. they are going to get them !  ~laughs~  Or ones that top from the bottom by making ‘suggestions’ of what the Domme might ‘do’ to them … ~yawns~  It couldn’t have more of an opposite effect on me. I want to ensure they receive none of it. Now someone who never tries to get what they crave, makes me curious to find out what makes their cock hard.

frenchy: How do you evaluate a prospective slave during the first days you know him? What are you looking at first?

Mistress Copper : How engaging he is. How fast he responds. How eager he is. Attention to detail.

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frenchy: Do you go to other BDSM or Femdom sims? What do you like the most at DS that you don’t find anywhere else?

Mistress Copper : I do go to a lot of other lifestyle sims and what I love most about the Divine, is the amazing camaraderie among the women there. Everyone is so welcoming and not cliquey(a childish side effect of some sims). From the moment you arrive at Divine Sadism, you are greeted and made to feel at home whether it is your first time or your hundredth; and not just by the scum, but by the women as well. I also love the roleplay. You won’t find that kind of role play in local chat going on at any other lifestyle sim. The women are imaginative and spirited, and I even give the scum some credit. Being witty while still remaining humble is hard to pull off and some of them do it brilliantly. I have laughed so hard in real life at times. Divine sadism is a plethora of endorphin some days …

frenchy: Do you like to use other slave that belong to other Mistresses at DS, or do you prefer to be served by those who are not owned to check them out?

Mistress Copper : I enjoy engaging anyone who wishes to be used and who has permission to do so.

frenchy:  Do you think it can be a problem for a Mistress to have an inflated ego or is it justified and only men should learn humility?

Mistress Copper :  Let’s be realistic here. Anyone can have an inflated ego. The world is full of them in both sexes. As to the lifestyle … anyone who is a true Domme … doesn’t have to shout it to the rafters for all the world to hear. Anyone standing around singing their own praises all the time … is far from what they claim to be and more than likely have extreme insecurities …. True dominance should be an unspoken thing, that is heard by all, with no words needed ….

frenchy:  Do you believe that almost any man can become a good slave by the right amount of training and conditioning?

Mistress Copper : Not a chance in hell. Some men are incapable of being trained. These ones are just a waste of space and a drain of energy. I have learned to recognize them quickly and dismiss them from my presence.

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frenchy:  What in Your opinion, makes for a successful D/s relationship; and what if any responsibility does a Domme have towards the submissive?

Mistress Copper : Continuity.You must have a balance of things you both enjoy. The more mutual tastes in the lifestyle, the more likely you will have a successful relationship. ~smiles

Of course a Domme has responsibilities towards the slave. Care and well being. Just like owning a pet. They must be fed, watered, and kept from accidentally harming themselves.

As a Domme … (without going into a soap box rant as some are want to do about this subject) …. you must know where danger lurks … and act accordingly. This includes not just their physical well being but their mental health as well. I especially speak to those whose SL relationship cross over into RL here.

frenchy: To finish, I will ask you the ritual question. (smiles) What is your philosophy of life? If you had to state a simple principle that you follow to conduct your life, what would it be?

Mistress Copper : Don’t be afraid to take risks. Nothing ventured nothing gained. See as much of the world as you can, it’s much smaller than you think, and has SO much enrichment to offer. On your death bed, the only thing that is going to matter is your memories and your loved ones.

A final thought to real life in this SL world of beautiful AV’s ….. I think you will find, as you go through life …. that the more you grow to like a person …. the better looking they get ….

frenchy: Thank you again for this wonderful interview Miss Copper. Goodbye. (smiles)

Mistress Copper : You are welcome. Goodbye frenchy ~smiles~

It is certainly unnecessary to explain who Miss Rosa is for Divine Sadism. I have been lucky enough to meet Her the same day I met Mistress Natalia a few weeks before She decided to create Divine Sadism. I have had therefore the privilege to witness the birth of Divine Sadism and its incredible expansion during the following 6 months. And there is no words to say how much I keep being amazed by how Miss Rosa not only manages the sim She has created, but by Her vision of Female Domination that She has successfully  given shape to at Divine Sadism.

As my co-owner, Miss Rosa’s guidance in my development as a slave has been always very strict, but also very comforting when She has always generously acknowledged my progresses after pointing out my mistakes. Her  “Maieutic”  way to teach showed itself extremely efficiently when I was able to keep up. Needless to say, I have been extremely lucky to have received the attention that She has given me as a Mistress, but also as a person who I admire equally. Also, I was most excited when she agreed to do this interview, which I am certain you can’t wait to read.

Please enjoy!

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frenchy: Greetings Miss Rosa and thank you so much for accepting and finding the time in your busy schedule to realize this interview that many of us, the Divine and the scum have been waiting so much.

Miss Rosa: So frenchy, you finally cornered me for this interview.  I actually love to talk, in real life it is one of the ways I make a living.   As Divine Sadism is about to celebrate a six month milestone, I feel I can take a breath, stand back, and reflect on what I have created – created with the help of  some of the most amazing women I know, along with the courageous males who comprise our scum herd.

frenchy: Are you comfortable to share some general (non private) information about your person in RL?

Miss Rosa: I have always been a “alpha” female – by that I mean I walk into a room and when I have something to say, people stop and listen.  From kindergarten on my intense energy was both a blessing and a curse. Too often I have to “turn down” that intensity to deal with the many variances of work and relationships in RL.  I have very “big” energy that is works beautifully within the context of BDSM activities, specifically as a Dominatrix and an sadist.

After growing up in Los Angeles I have lived in rural communities in Washington, California, and Oregon.  In real life I am currently intensely focused on my career.  I am a widow, having lost my husband to cancer.   I also lost my beloved partner after he helped me through an extremely challenging graduate program.  Animals are an essential part of my life;  I have a horse, a dog, a cat.  I am an artist, a reader, a kayaker, and I love hiking.  I was an avid backpacker until a serious knee injury two years ago.

At this time of my life, as for so many, Second Life provides a venue to express and experience an essential part of who and what I am.

frenchy:  What is your country of origin and the culture that you belong to?

Miss Rosa:  While I live in the United States I want to stress that there are many cultural “rivers” in this county.  Politically I am a radical liberal  and will not comment further.  I grew up poor, my family a blended culture of settler farming and immigrant working class families.  In general women were viewed as having less worth than males.  Girls were not encouraged to express themselves.  As IF I could be so stifled.  Education was my salvation.  Today I am equally comfortable cutting Madrone firewood, butchering a goat, talking down a 250 pound biker in a bar, trimming my horse’s hoofs, serving on a non-profit Board of Directors, and commanding a slave to give himself 50 lashes to serve me.

frenchy: You seem to be a very organized person who plans in advance, is that right or do you prefer to improvise?

Miss Rosa: HA!  I am not at all organized.  I am careful to develop and maintain RL routines that help me compensate.  In my thinking I am highly organized, which is reflected in my work, and in my development of Divine Sadism.  While a certain Bestie of mine has used the phrase “control freak” on more than one occasion, I do not experience a “need to control” in RL.  This needs to be distinguished from a LOVE of Control – of using my Will to shape a slave’s mind, emotions, and life within D/s.  Of course I love Control in that way . . . . “I hate being in control” said  NO Dominatrix EVER.

What I am is an information manager and a “big picture” person.  I use information and communication to change minds, hearts, and lives in RL.  Information and  feedback systems, are essential to the creation and maintenance of Divine Sadism.

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frenchy: How does SL impact your RL and your RL influence your SL?

Miss Rosa: I have a very intense job working closely with people.  While I am wired “alpha”  I am also an introvert.   ( To learn about introverts visit this link at the  Huffington Post ) At the end of the day my “dealing with people” energy tank is totally drained.  I am also still somewhat bereaved from too many deaths in too short of a time.  When I am done with work the last thing I want is any social scene or obligations.  Where I live there is no local kink scene that is . . . hmmmm, remotely safe or appealing.  SL provides just the right balance of interaction AND it offers a safe way for me to express a huge part of myself.

frenchy: How would you present yourself as a Mistress to someone you meet for the first time or in other words, what is your style of domination?

Miss Rosa: My “style” changes with every slave I use, yet there are some things I most enjoy in approaching D/s.   I closely assess my property, gathering “data”, developing long term goals and plans.  While my slave gives me the gift of power over him, within the TPE  I wield that power to deepen their growth and skill as a slave.  My choice of strategies is partially defined by my experience, judgment, acquired knowledge of human nature, and what I identify as the specific skills I want my slave to develop.  One thing remains constant, the slave exists for one reason – to serve.  To serve they must obey.  Period.

As an Owner, I strive to be transparent, ethical, and willing to speak honestly of mutual experience.  I will not tolerate any attempt at manipulation or guilt.  I despise “topping from the bottom”.  As a sadist I am inventive at long distance, real life methods of inflicting pain.  I use a variety of virtual “leashes” that enable me to extend my control into real life.  Before I claim a slave, I thoroughly screen, interview, and require a rigorous probation.

My property serves a purpose, has a function.  I adore my four wheel drive, F150 Truck.  Any expression of appreciation I share with scum is very similar. I rarely have actual “pixel” sex with my property, in part because I do not want them to develop any notion that they are my “lover”.  Also because honestly, pixel sex is utterly vanilla and boring for me.  I do enjoy using voice, love the Power simple voice adds to the D/s connection – how it can facilitate the controlled arousal of a male animal and provide rewards when I allow them to share in my own arousal and orgasm.  The most valued service of all is when I can hear my slave suffering for me.

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frenchy: What attracts you the most in a submissive man? In other words, which are the qualities that you find the most attractive in a slave?

Miss Rosa: First, why do you limit potential submissives to male?  While we work primarily with males in DS, I enjoy both males and females.

I have little interest in working with anyone who does not understand the difference between submission and consensual, non-consensual slavery, someone who longs to be a slave.  To attract my notice, one must be keenly intelligent, articulate, and witty.  They need to understand I am a sadist who will be aroused by their suffering.  I enjoy mature males, who are clear about their essential nature.  There must be a sense of “affinity”, the intangible ingredient that allows for a deep connection.  Willingness to serve in real life via long distance domination is absolutely essential.

Little makes me angrier than hearing our slaves disparaged by soft submissives who have not the slightest idea of the courage it takes to serve as a slave at Divine Sadism.  Most of our “scum” are highly successful men who are respected professionals.  To serve the intensely sadistic Divine requires great strength, endurance,  and a clear sense of oneself.

frenchy: What could turn you off in a prospective slave?

Miss Rosa: Whining, entitlement, stupidity, & lack of focus.

frenchy: What excites you the most, to inflict pain or the feeling to be in total control?

Miss Rosa: Seriously frenchy?  SERIOUSLY?!?  What good is one without the other.  I am aroused by pain – sexually and intellectually.  I am deeply satisfied, sometimes aroused, and always fully engaged and fascinated by what is created between people through a Total Power Exchange – both during the immediacy of a session and through long term Ownership. I enjoy control even if no pain is involved . . . it is a creative process for me, like painting.  Add pain and things start to get hot, energy begins to flow, I feel deeply connected to the male I am using, feel a very immediate, almost spiritual connection.  The infliction of intentional pain is an erotic sacrament.  Add the degree of Control we wield within Divine Sadism, willing and directing a male to use their hands and teeth to hurt their own flesh in service and worship . . . THAT creates a linkage so intense for me that I become deeply aroused.

frenchy: How important is role playing versus RL submission for you? Do you think role playing outside his comfort zone requires much sacrifice from a slave?

Miss Rosa: Role-playing? *yawns* I have little interest in just role-playing.  Combine the visual imagery possible in SL with chat or voice, add real life, and NOW you are starting to get my attention.  It is deeply erotic for me to see a picture of a slave whose flesh is marked with bruises given by their own hand – a hand that moved in service to my Will.  What arouses me is the sound of a slave grunting in pain as they hurt their own body to please me.  BDSM – for me the preferred letters in the acronym are DS – Domination & Sadism.  Yes, it is intentional that DS also is used to represent Divine Sadism.

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frenchy: What do you think about limits in BDSM? Are they necessary, useful or shouldn’t they exist in a meaningful D/s relationship between consenting adults who trust each other?

Miss Rosa: What I “think” about limits in BDSM is reflected by limits in Divine Sadism.  I have no interest in working with “subs”.  Those allowed to serve me become my slaves.  This means they are property without rights.  Yes, I mean exactly what I said.  There is one critical and essential “choice”.  That is the choice to become my slave, thereby entering into a consensual non-consensual D/s experience.  With the pixelated world of Second Life and Divine Sadism this is absolute.  Divine Sadism slaves give their consent by remaining in DS.  There ARE no limits!

When we consider limits and real life, the parameters shift.  I do not require service that endangers real life family, profession, or the community standing of my property.

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frenchy: Is this a good time to tell us a little about your decision to create Divine Sadism?

Miss Rosa: I am delighted to talk about Divine Sadism frenchy.  When I first came to SL I adored the dark side of folklore and the living archetypes within BDSM.   The archetype of the “Dark Mother” is one I find deeply appealing.   As a child my chosen “role models” were the Russian witch Baba Yaga, Maleficent, and Circe. I rooted for the witch in Hansel and Gretel. My personal “F-list” is long, dark, and very perverse.  Embodying the “Dark Mother” in SL was the perfect “form” for my love of dominance and sadism.  It led to developing Rosa’s Tower, which was my private home and dungeon.

While I enjoyed meeting other Dommes, I never felt engaged by the many SL Femdom sims, with the exception of Sadism Island.  Nicole Kessel and Rachel beDeviled created the perfect Femdom venue – there were no pesky limits as to how I chose to use males at SOS.  Even better, I could make them bleed and scream in partnership with like-minded Dominas.  This was HEAVEN!!  I had so much fun, laughed harder than I had in years, and met some of the Dominatrixes I am honored to still work with in Divine Sadism.  One of these became my Partner and ultimate BESTIE – Natalia Kessel.

When Sadism Island shut down, I was bereft.  Standing around in a certain fetish sim watching everyone watching everyone made me crazy.  Sitting in throne circles listening to males babble made me crazier and pissed me off.   There was simply no SL Femdom venue for those of us who like it hard, who would much prefer staking a male to a cross and applying cock and ball torture over getting a pedicure or being served a lovely tea.
Starting my own sim seemed overwhelming, yet there was just no other option if I was going to continue to enjoy the dark side of Femdom on Second Life.  Since I am a pack rat, I had a huge BDSM inventory.  I found a good deal on land, with decent prims for $40.00 per month.  That was affordable. I could experiment without feeling stress or pressure to pay the tier.  I do not have to depend whatsoever upon tribute from males, yet such tribute has paid 100% of the Divine Sadism tier and provided for many of the toys and tools used by the Divine.

frenchy: That helps explain what motivated you to develop Divine Sadism.  After almost six months, how are you feeling about what you created?

Miss Rosa: Oh frenchy, I have to stress that Divine Sadism is much more than just “my” creation! From the beginning there has been a team of brilliant, sadistic Dominatrixes – the Divine, sharing their time and talent to build our Community.  My original three goals were to create a Femdom sim that encouraged the no-limit abuse and humiliation of males; supported the collaboration of Dominas with similar sadistic tastes; and offered a Community that might grow over time.  These goals have been achieved, and provide the foundation for the continued development of Divine Sadism. To learn more about that, watch for the upcoming post about our plans for the next sixth months in our little haven of pain and suffering.

frenchy:  We all will! Thank you again Miss Rosa for doing this interview and telling us so much about you and your vision of Divine Sadism. It has been thrilling! Goodbye Miss Rosa.

 

 

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One of the true “treasures” of Divine Sadism is our Divine Queen Bitch Indigo. Her keen intelligence and level head make her a valued DS Officer.  She has her own “fan club” of scum who look forward to finding her on the DS deck in the SLT morning. She has kindly accepted  this interview and been extremely patient when I was shooting the photography of this post. Also, I take this opportunity to express my deepest gratitude for the time she has generously given to make this post possible. Enjoy!

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frenchy:  Greetings Mistress Indigo. Please allow me to thank you for acccepting to do this interview. We are really curious about the mysterious Divine Queen Bitch Indigo. First let me ask you this.  Are you comfortable to share some general (non private) information about your person in RL? Or do you do it only once you know a person for some time?

Divine Mistress Indigo: Well generally I would choose to remain private but I will provide you a tidbit or two. I hail from the Midwest (where the tree’s are ripe for rigging a slave into the canopy) I am an amazing 52 years of age, physically strong and in a relationship that is absolutely hands down, perfect.

frenchy:  Thank you so much for sharing this, Mistress Indigo. Are you a very organized person who plans in advance or do you prefer to improvise?

Divine Mistress Indigo:  I prefer to be spontaneous, some great and memorable things can happen when you are open to them.

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frenchy:  In a world mainly composed of macho societies, it might not be easy just to realize for a woman that she can be dominant. Could you tell us how you discovered that side of you and how it has changed your life?

Divine Mistress Indigo: I was fortunate to have had a sadistic, Dominant older brother. At 14 I was permitted ( much to my delight ) to sit in on, and eventually participate in “sessions” with his girls. Since training, I have found myself in a much deeper, more cerebral yet darker place in my life. But still able to see the beauty. And the rest ~ is history

frenchy: Do you own slaves at this moment? If so, are you open to consider a new slave if the opportunity comes up?

Divine Mistress Indigo: I do not and have not for a long time, I am open provided that I am entertained by it. Boredom is death.

frenchy:  Do you go to other BDSM or Femdom sims? What do you like the most at DS that you don’t find anywhere else?

Divine Mistress Indigo: Eh, I pop over to Velvet Thorn on occasion to visit with friends that find it hard to escape. Alas Divine Sadism is my homestone. The realism and Female Supremacy are extreme.

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frenchy: Do you think men are submissive in nature, but that our society makes them think they have to be dominant or do you believe otherwise?

Divine Mistress Indigo: Well, society places men in positions of power – that cannot be denied or stopped. That position being above others in the workplace extends past the time clock. That’s where men go wrong. All men are submissive in nature, they are givers.

frenchy: Can you be a sadist without being a Domme or vice versa?

Divine Mistress Indigo: Certainly, why not? Look back over some of the mass murderers.

frenchy (nods):  Except BDSM, what do you like to do in SL?

Divine Mistress Indigo: I enjoy being able to experience the creativity that is done here by some amazing artists such as Bryn Oh.

frenchy:  Thank you so much for accepting to participate to this interview Mistress Indigo. I wish you a wonderful day. Goodbye.

Divine Mistress Indigo: You are welcome frenchy. Goodbye.

 

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When poopy becomes pee pee.

Posted: July 18, 2016 by nataliakessel in Uncategorized

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felicia was a sissy that used to serve as a maid at The Hellfire Club. Like most sissies that have not been trained properly, they are benignly selfish.What does “benignly selfish” mean, you ask? It means they are so wrapped up in their own narcissistic needs, that they don’t even realize it; in other words self involved.

This one thought it could do better than me not once, but twice. The first time, it had the audacity to tell me that it felt it connected better with some half-assed, self proclaimed FinDomme loser called PrincessGiveMeAllYourLindens Resident or something ridiculous like that. Long time readers of this blog and my slaves know I don’t get mad. I get even. It didn’t even take that long either to get my revenge as PrincessWhateverHerName bled him dry, and then discarded him less than 5 days later.

When he came crawling back with his tail between his legs, I decided to teach him a lesson about FinDomming. “Why not?”, I thought; I love to shop! I paraded his loser ass over to all my favorite stores: Blueberry, DeLa, Bax, Maitreya, WS Creations, H@S, Tres Blah and about a half dozen other stores. At every stop he was required to tell the people  working in the shops, why he was buying me whatever my little heart desired. There was a lesson learned after him having to go back and buy more lindens twice over the course of that afternoon.

The second time he left, he was much smarter about the way he did so. Apparently he still wasn’t satisfied with what I was offering. That’s fine, both sides need to be excited about the dynamic or it simply doesn’t work. I did know that he would be back however, because his type always comes crawling back. As analogy, they always seem to want what the person next to them is eating, while never paying attention to the bountiful meal in front of them.

However this time when he came back, much had transpired in his absence; primarily my fantastic collaboration with my absolute bestie Rosa Hunter, and the emergence of Divine Sadism. It was wasn’t going to be as easy a decadent shopping trip this time. Oh no, no, no! Sometimes I am amazed at what a deliciously bad influence Rosa has had on me.

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This time around his training started with us stripping away all the “pretty things” about his submissiveness in an effort to illustrate what his purpose to be around Divine Sadism was.  We even made him wear an avatar of big turd, and change his name to poopy. Nobody wanted anything to do with that; the effect on him was jarring. As basic slave training 101 goes, once we had stripped away all of the old, it was time to start rebuilding his fragile psyche the way we wanted it. To his credit he has taken every piece of debasement thrown at him like a true abuse sponge. One by one, we have started to give him back little  things like his human form and hair.

Last week we decided that he was ready to begin real life training. He was given the very simple task of buying a dog collar with a remote control shock apparatus to be worn around his ankle and then eventually his boy bits. Being the moron that he is, he fell asleep when FedEx went to deliver his collar.

Below is a transcript of our conversation:

[06:09] poopy (bootlover Colter): forgive me Goddess Natalia
[06:09] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Hmmmm?
[06:09] poopy (bootlover Colter): the post office were in my place but i was sleeping
[06:11] poopy (bootlover Colter): now only available on monday and monday is a impossible day for me so now only tuesday best chance
[06:11] poopy (bootlover Colter): i have failed please forgive me
[06:11] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): I guess I am just going to have to make you wait until Tuesday.
[06:12] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): How do you want to account for your sloth?
[06:12] poopy (bootlover Colter): my sloth?
[06:12] poopy (bootlover Colter): didn’t understand forgive me
[06:13] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel):

sloth
[slawth]

See more synonyms on Thesaurus.com
noun
1. habitual disinclination to exertion; indolence; laziness.

[06:14] poopy (bootlover Colter): oh
[06:14] poopy (bootlover Colter): well You talked about isolation
[06:14] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): We are going to play a little game sissy……………
[06:15] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): You propose an appropriate punishment for your ineptitude. If I like it, that is what it will be……………..if I don’t like it……….I will find something really awful.
[06:15] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Probably something that involves toilet training.
[06:15] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): You have 10 minutes to let me know.
[06:16] poopy (bootlover Colter): yes Goddess Natalia
[06:22] poopy (bootlover Colter): well, until i have my collar on my ankle my Sl privileges are gone and i will be isolated on a cell full restricted. i have to keep my hours online as the same. in RL each time i log i should have nipple clamps, a plug on my ass and wear a chastity belt
[06:25] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): I don’t think we need to isolate you…………….but adore the idea of you plugged, caged, & clamped. Send me a picture holding a sign saying “this is what happens when I act like a sloth”.
[06:27] poopy (bootlover Colter): right now Goddess Natalia?
[06:28] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Are you at work?
[06:28] poopy (bootlover Colter): i don’t think i have a mirror that big at home to show all
[06:28] poopy (bootlover Colter): to take a pic
[06:28] poopy (bootlover Colter): at home day off
[06:28] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Send me multiple pictures then.
[06:29] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Your camera can take more than one picture at a time. Right?
[06:29] poopy (bootlover Colter) nods
[06:29] poopy (bootlover Colter): i am on deck now
[06:29] poopy (bootlover Colter): with Mistress Kelly
[06:29] poopy (bootlover Colter): can’t do it now….

At this point I instructed him to tell Kelly about his predicament as I was somewhere else while this conversation was going on, and ask her permission to complete the given task.

[06:39] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Is it true that you are not being forthcoming with my bff sloth?
[06:39] poopy (bootlover Colter): don’t understand
[06:39] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Choose your words carefully.
[06:40] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Tell Kelly immediately what you need to do for me or we do the toilet training I described.
[06:41] poopy (bootlover Colter): oh i’m so srry yes right away
[06:45] poopy (bootlover Colter): i have told it
[06:45] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): When will I have my pictures?
[06:45] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Or should we just do the toilet punishment?
[06:46] poopy (bootlover Colter) wonders about that punishment
[06:47] poopy (bootlover Colter) feels attracted for Goddess Natalia’s will
[06:47] poopy (bootlover Colter): may i ask what was the punishment?
[06:48] poopy (bootlover Colter): omg
[06:49] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): You go in the bathroom…………….pee in a cup………….and then stand in the shower and pour the pee pee all over your head. Then you come back to the computer and serve at DS for 3 hours covered in your filth.
[06:49] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Because I am feeling generous I will let you sit on a towel while you do your 3 hours.
[06:50] poopy (bootlover Colter): oh my god…this is Your final word?
[06:50] poopy (bootlover Colter): this task instead of the other?
[06:51] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Since I can see how clearly you are begging to for it. Yes. Ask Kelly for 5 minutes to go and do what you were told to do.
[06:51] poopy (bootlover Colter): but i don’t have will to pee right now…
[06:52] poopy (bootlover Colter): i will tell Her the punishment changed
[06:53] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Start drinking water.
[06:53] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): You have 20 minutes to complete.
[06:53] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): I want at least a quarter of a litre of pee pee.
[06:54] poopy (bootlover Colter): take pic of what?
[06:54] poopy (bootlover Colter): the pee and the cup
[06:54] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): MmmHmmm.
[06:54] poopy (bootlover Colter): and wet hair
[06:54] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Mmmhmmm.
[06:54] poopy (bootlover Colter): as You wish my Queen
[06:56] poopy (bootlover Colter): please i beg for more time, drinking all water, the scene, the pics and coping it to the computer
[06:57] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): OK. You have 22 minutes.
[06:57] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Stop wasting time begging.
[06:57] poopy (bootlover Colter): starting now?
[06:57] poopy (bootlover Colter): please?
[07:01] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): You have wasted 4 minutes already.
[07:01] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): You don’t want to know what I have in mind if you fail.
[07:01] poopy (bootlover Colter): i’m drinking water
[07:11] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): 6 minutes left animal.
[07:13] poopy (bootlover Colter): uploading pics now

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[07:15] poopy (bootlover Colter): 3 hours on DS from now
[07:16] poopy (bootlover Colter): some came to my lips and mouth… 😦
[07:16] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel) snickers
[07:17] poopy (bootlover Colter): have to show pics to Mistress Kelly?
[07:17] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): MmHmmm.
[07:18] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Do you have my email address sissy?
[07:18] poopy (bootlover Colter): as You wish my Queen
[07:18] poopy (bootlover Colter): mine is [censored]@gmail.com
[07:18] poopy (bootlover Colter): may i call You my Queen?
[07:19] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): You may. I prefer Mistress though.
[07:19] poopy (bootlover Colter): yes Mistress as You wish
[07:19] poopy (bootlover Colter): your email address?
[07:19] poopy (bootlover Colter): sorry
[07:19] poopy (bootlover Colter): hum i think so let me check
[07:20] poopy (bootlover Colter): hum maybe not
[07:20] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Email me those pictures. That is the cost of obtaining my email address.
[07:20] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): [censored]@live.com
[07:21] poopy (bootlover Colter) saves it
[07:22] poopy (bootlover Colter): want me to write an email?
[07:22] poopy (bootlover Colter): oh of course right away
[07:23] poopy (bootlover Colter): email sent
[07:24] poopy (bootlover Colter): i am so grateful You are giving me a chance
[07:32] poopy (bootlover Colter): i never did this to myself
[07:33] poopy (bootlover Colter): i tremble thinking on the future and what goes ahead

After a brief intermission, I decided to go to Divine Sadism and check on the pathetic creature.

[07:58] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Still at Divine Sadism?
[07:58] poopy (bootlover Colter): on the cushion Mistress
[07:59] poopy (bootlover Colter): may i dream of a collar from You both?
[07:59] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): You can dream.
[07:59] poopy (bootlover Colter): i already feel it on my mind
[08:00] poopy (bootlover Colter): oh i think i need to pee again
[08:00] poopy (bootlover Colter) smiles
[08:02] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Why don’t you refresh your hair?
[08:02] poopy (bootlover Colter): really?
[08:02] poopy (bootlover Colter): glup
[08:02] poopy (bootlover Colter): want more pics?
[08:04] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): MmmHmmm.
[08:04] poopy (bootlover Colter): oh my god i got a full cup now
[08:05] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel) giggles evilly
[08:07] poopy (bootlover Colter): will do it now?
[08:08] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Go scurry along.
[08:09] poopy (bootlover Colter): yes Mistress
[08:13] poopy (bootlover Colter): uploading now

[08:19] poopy (bootlover Colter): want those by email too?
[08:20] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): MmmHmm.
[08:28] poopy (bootlover Colter): sent Mistress
[08:30] poopy (bootlover Colter): i reset the title tomorow?
[08:30] ηɑէɑlιɑ Қєşşєl (NataliaKessel): Yes.
[08:31] poopy (bootlover Colter): as You wish Mistress thank you

It has been now a few weeks that the Divine Mistress Kelly has been tormenting the scum at DS and I know that she has already  made some of the scum’s head spin. Her dominance and assertiveness has certainly been noticed by all of us and she is undoubtedly one of the prominent Divine that the scum must fear. She has graciously invited me to her delicately decorated home for this interview and showed me her dungeon that would not leave indifferent the strongest among us. Please enjoy the read!

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frenchy: Good afternoon Divine Mistress  Kelly. First of all, I would like to thank you for agreeing to do this interview. It is not the first time we met, as I had the pleasure to be introduced to you by Mistress Natalia who is a long time friend of yours. But, if I am not mistaken, you are relatively new at Divine Sadism and I am sure that many of us at DS are very curious about you.(smiles). As a start, could you tell us what your country of origin is and the culture that you belong to?

Divine Mistress Kelly : (smiles) Hello frenchy,  I am British and living in the UK.

frenchy:  Are you comfortable to share some general (non private) information about your person in RL? Or do you do it only once you know a person for some time?

Divine Mistress Kelly : I am very comfortable sharing information about my RL self. I have no issues discussing openly my feelings, thoughts and views about any subject including myself.  I do however respect that for some that is difficult for whatever reason.

frenchy (nods); Thank you. This is good to know and I won’t ask more about that here but just  let those who are curious ask you directly. (smiles). Are you a very organized person who plans in advance or do you prefer to improvise?

Divine Mistress Kelly : I like to plan in advance most things in my life, SL included.  When I enter into a scene with a slave, I have usually spent some time thinking about it, not always but 8 out of 10 times; the reason  for this is because after initially meeting and talking with the slave I have a somewhat general view on what the slaves strength’s and weaknesses are and of course better prepared to use it to my own advantages creating a more intense scene for myself.

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frenchy : and what are you favorite fetishes for these scenes?

Divine Mistress Kelly : Depending on my mood I would say my top 5 are strapon, CBT, breath control, electricity play (voilet wand) and flogging.

frenchy (swallows at the thought of these);  I think it makes sense to ask you this now. What do you think about limits in BDSM? Are they necessary, useful or shouldn’t they exist in a meaningful D/s relationship between consenting adults who trust each other?

Divine Mistress Kelly :  I think this is where RL and SL differ. In SL slaves are physically safe. It is impossible for them to feel any real physical pain and SL is a place for exploration, experience and to take those extra risks you probably wouldn’t in the real world. Although understandably for some, there is impact emotionally and mentally which effects there real selfs in the real world for which my advice would be don’t go to a no limit M/s sim – full stop!  In RL I have found that with submissives I have played with on a long term basis their so called hard limits melt into soft limits which eventually dissolve all together.  Limits are always interesting for a Dominant for so many reasons, even our own.

frenchy:  In your opinion, can one be a sadist without being a Domme or vice versa?

Divine Mistress Kelly :  Yes of course, a sadist does not have to be a BDSM Domme. And a BDSM Domme does not have to be a sadist – She can do as she damn well pleases!  I often ask a similar question about slaves ” Does a person have to be a masochist to be a BDSM slave? ”  Or a ” BDSM slave to be a masochist? ” I don’t think so, but it sure helps.

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frenchy: Do you think it can be a problem for a Mistress to have an inflated ego or is it justified and only men should learn humility?

Divine Mistress Kelly : A Mistress at a no limit, sadist sim can do as she pleases.  Common sense and integrity should play a part though between the other female Dominants present.

frenchy: Do you like to use other’s Mistresses slave at DS, or do you prefer to be served by those who are not owned?

Divine Mistress Kelly : Personally for myself I would never play alone with Owned slaves if invited along with a slaves Mistress to a scene, then of course, but generally I do not play with others property. However, since I go to DS on a regular basis, I have started to enjoy to play with other’s properties more…(smiles)

frenchy: Can you explain why? Is it because, when you play with a slave, you contemplate the possibility to own him eventually if you like how the scene goes?

Divine Mistress Kelly :  No not at all, its mainly because he answers to her, as he should of course. Imagine this frenchy – I am playing with an owned slave, lets say 30 minutes into it and his Owner logs into SL demanding his company, he then has to leave the scene immediately. I am not very keen on that at all for obvious reasons.  Of course RL emergencies happen from time to time and that cannot be avoided.

frenchy: (nods in agreement)  What interests you the most in a submissive man? In other words, which are the qualities that you find the most attractive in a slave?

Divine Mistress Kelly : Most attractive qualities for me would be a really funny sense of humor, a slave that has learned the art of humor in balance with the correct etiquette, not so easy to do.  Also I enjoy boys who are sexually turned on by BDSM.

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frenchy: Do you own slaves at this moment? If so, are you open to consider a new slave if the opportunity comes up?

Divine Mistress Kelly : I do not own slaves and I am most definitely not looking to own one.

frenchy: How do you deal with slaves who top from the bottom? Do you think there are ways to cure them from this bad habit?

Divine Mistress Kelly : I deal with them at a distance, a very long distance.. its my most dis-likeable quality in a slave.  I am not sure if it can be cured, in SL maybe its a typo or not understanding how a scene works or very new to the lifestyle etc….. either way I have little time for it, and restructuring my play scene to ‘teach’ the proper way is very annoying.

frenchy: To finish, I would like to ask you. What is your philosophy of life? If you had to state a simple principle that you follow to conduct your life, what would it be?

Divine Mistress Kelly :    “To thy own self be true, for as sure as night follows day all things will come to pass”

frenchy;  I would like to thank you for being so kind to accept this interview and for being so patient when I shot the photos. Goodbye, Mistress Kelly (smiles).

Divine Mistress Kelly: You are welcome, goodbye frenchy (smiles).

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Looking for a few sadistic individuals.

Posted: July 11, 2016 by nataliakessel in Uncategorized

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Goddess Arianna Atlantis wants to know:

  • Do your friends ever call you mean or bitchy in a totally complimentary way?
  • Has a slave ever developed a limp from doing a real life task you required of them?
  • Is emotional abuse something you consider a hobby?
  • Are chastity devices more than just fashion accessories?
  • Is your idea of multi-tasking: spanking a slave while you pork him with your strappy?
  • Do you look at public humiliation an aphrodisiac?
  • Should there be legislation passed requiring that slaves must drink their spunk every time they are milked?
  • Is sticking something up a slave’s bum your idea of a romantic evening?

If you can answer “hell yes!” to any or all of these questions, you may have found a home at Divine Sadism. Right now Divine Sadism has a grid wide search on for  some of the meanest, bitchiest, and most sadistic Dommes on the grid. We are looking for confident and creative female personalities that work well inside a group dynamic, and mutually enjoy making slaves miserable.

Please feel free to stop by the sim, and interact with other members of our Sisterhood. If interested in joining the staff, please feel free to inquire into getting a tag from any of the group officers.

 

 

 

chigley’s re-education.

Posted: July 8, 2016 by nataliakessel in Uncategorized

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Last week Rosa & I are keept chigley at Starbucks as part of its punishment for disrespecting Vanda. This incident showed that he still has a sense of male entitlement, despite our best intentions to bleach it out of his mindset. What made matters worse was that by saying it out loud in public chat area, it caused sedition and promoted bad thoughts amongst the other scum.

Being sent to Starbucks is the second part of his punishment. He spent time there to reinforce what it feels like to be objectified.

I was so pleased to log on last week to see that my dear friend Bronco had left me a note about his role in chigley’s re-education. I thought it would be downright selfish not to share with everyone else.

So please enjoy the delightful read.

 

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Dear Mistress Natalie and Mistress Rosa:

So as if my work day isn’t filled enough.  Cooking over a hot stove.  Serving meals to the slave boys who work the fields, giving tours, providing wrestling instruction, and tending to the art gallery, what do I find at the very end of the day?  CHIGLEY!

Seems as if Mistress Natalia and Mistress Rosa have dropped off the doof in our lair for a “re-education”.  And of course Master Starbuck has better things to attend to than some dummy, so he leaves him in the tavern with his ass in the air.  I’m thinking to myself, dang, after a long day, I just want to kick of my flips and relax.   Just want to shower, maybe even take a nice bath and just take it easy.  And what do I see?  CHIGLEY!

That dummy NEVER learns!  I mean, what is wrong with that guys head already?  He tells me he’s been dropped off for re-education.  And he adds in his whimpering voice “But no one’s around.”  I shake my head cuz I know what this means.  Even his Mistresses find him to their displeasure and so they just want the dog out of the house for awhile.  I grab hold of the jerk and take him upstairs to our Horror Tree.  I tell him, “Chig, you never seem to learn, do you?  Well, this hear Horror Tree has been recently planted and it’s just the thing for you.  I’m gonna hang you up on it, take some pix of you getting abused on it, and send them pictures to your Mistresses so they can come by and see how good it is.  And they’ll know that you’re “re-education” is going smoothly.

So under the moonlight I light up a torch and chain up Chig to the tree.  Ass over tea kettle first.  Maybe something will sink into his head, you know?  With some weights on his tits and a stick in his ass I see him squirmin’ and thrashin’ about.  “Had enuf,” I ax him?  And he’s like “Uh, I think I need more training.”  Or something dopey like that.  And I’m thinking to myself, “Oh man, I need this at this hour?”  So I house this ankles up high so cock and balls hang down and can give his cock and nuts a bit of a roasting.  I’m sure it doesn’t get much use anymore anyways.  I figure, o.k. he needs an education and like, his Mistresses want to see him excel in some way, so what better thing to put him on than an A-frame.  Letting him sit on it puts a lot of strain on his legs and his cox..cocs… His tail bone!  and like he’s whimpering that it hurts and I’m a cruel bastard and crap like that as he’s trying to raise himself up off the frame.  I’m just watching him and thinking, it’s no wonder the Ladies have had it with him.  So I figure let me amuse myself a little bit by making him a pin cushion.   People don’t use pin cushions like they used to, but we at the lair are Old School…   But it’s late at night and I’m getting sleepy so It’s time to bed Chig down for the night.  So I make him up a nice wooden frame to sleep on under the tree and push him down for the night.  As one last part of his evening class I throw off my flip-flop and push him down with my barefoot.  He’s like, “That’s disgusting!”  And yeah, o.k. I been on my feet all day!  He deserves some stinky, cheesy Bronco feet.  If he had been a better footstool for his Ladies, he might not be here.

But this is only part 1 of some good lessons he has in store.

Ladies, you’re invited to discover our Horror tree.  Know that we take your requests seriously.

Faithfully submitted.

Bronco

CC:  Master Starbuck

Comfortable.

Posted: July 3, 2016 by nataliakessel in Articles, Feel the Hellfire, Isn't It Divine?, Uncategorized
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On my last trip to Los Angeles, I was so delighted to share the same time zone with my absolute bestie Rosa Hunter, that we coined a new phrase #westcoastbitchiness. True enough to form, our 3 favorite pets managed to all majorly fuck-up on the same day for different offenses.

Without getting into the semantics of what they did, I decided to examine to the root of the problem which was that they to varying degrees had gotten comfortable in the coveted positions as our slaves.

Completely unacceptable. In a thought provoking punishment they were to all email me in 300 words or less, why it is unacceptable for a slave to become comfortable or complacent. In addition they were to write #westcoastbitchiness on a part of their body that they could easily conceal to remind them what happens when Rosa & I are on the same coast.

frenchy:

Why is it bad for a slave to be comfortable? The answer seems simple but it struck you even more when you experience the consequences which make you learn this lesson the hard way…

Almost by definition, when you are comfortable, you don’t see the dangers that could put you in a critical situation. For a regular person who is in a safe environment, that is totally fine. In this case, being comfortable is actually a good thing. However if you are in a hostile environment, then the situation is completely different. Any danger that sneaks in can be fatal to you.

By nature, a slave is bound by many constraints, needs to serve anytime, must keep the irreproachable behavior that his owner taught him and has to be ready to answer any demands of his superiors. This is not really a safe environment, is it? When he gets too comfortable, he could either forget to serve, ignore an order from a superior, lose his focus or just forget to behave according to his training and return to his bad habits. Needless to say that if this slave is closely watched by his owner, the consequences for him could range, according to the level of the blunder he made, from a simple timeout to a severe punishment that will make him then extremely uncomfortable.

For those who are familiar with the game of chess, I’d like to finish by a little analogy. When a chess player is overconfident of his position, he will overlook the hidden threats of his opponent and he will most likely do a blunder that will ruin his game and make him probably the loser. Now think of a slave as a chess player against a computer and you will understand why he should never be comfortable.

bitchy:

Why a slave should never get comfortable.

Mistress Natalia there are core reasons why a scum should never get comfortable. A scum has no place doing that is it should always be on it’s toes to serve and please the will of it’s owner.

Getting comfortable only leads to mistakes and complacency. Assuming and taking things for granted which is one of the worst things they can do. Senses always need to be heightened to anticipate and learn, which is critical for a slave. They should always look to make sure every detail is taken care of…comfortable…sounds like watching tv on the couch waiting for it’s owner to get home. That is quite the visual.

It all truthfulness comfortable has no place in this type of relationship, a comfortable slave is a lazy slave…it has forgone all it has been honored with and begins to expect things. That is the best and surest way to displease an owner. Bitch did not state anything about the consequences for the slave….those are not, or should not be the priorities. It should always be on it’s owner and it is impossible to do that correctly if comfortable.

#westcoastbitchiness

lancey:

300 words or less  in a NC on why being comfortable is so counter intuitive for a slave.

Comfort.. death of a devoted slave.   In the beginning, we strive for perfection. We are always on our best behavior.  It is the courtship phase, always trying to impress.  Looking our best, minding our language.  Paying attention to all the cues.  Anticipating wants and needs.  Always striving to be the perfect slave.  Hang on every word, every command.  As we progress, things become routine.  What starts out as contentedness and comfort-ability eventually and unknowingly transforms into complacency.  Complacency is like running on auto-pilot.  No thought or conscious effort is involved.  In time it give the appearance that we don’t care, whether true or not, it is the perception that counts.  It is a maintenance setting.  Little or no growth occurs.  The relationship stagnates and dies.  It is important to re-vitalize and stimulate things.  Change things up a little, work at it.  The care and feeding of a relationship goes far beyond just showing up.  Constant vigilance is required.  It is all to easy to be lulled into a false sense of security.  There are no short-cuts.  Constant effort is required.

The word “Complacent” is defined as pleased, especially with oneself or one’s merits, advantages, situation, etc., often without awareness of some potential danger or defect; self-satisfied.  Smug is another word that comes to mind.  In order to combat and avoid complacency, one must be aware of the state we are in.  Are we overly pleased with our situation? Or are we always striving for more.  Do we feel we have advantages over others?  Are we happy with our situation? Or do we strive daily to improve?

Left un-checked, complacency can be terminal.  However, if we are vigilant and recognize the signs, we can avoid it all together and grow to new, never before imagined heights.

If you have read the last post of this chastity blog, you must remember I was left with the RL challenge to go to a strip-club as I was all locked-up in my chastity device and to order a lap dance to add to my humiliation. As I could not even think of not doing it, I was still unsure how to do this. However, as you will read again this time, it is only one manifestation of my submission and dependence upon Mistress Natalia who not only holds the keys of my chastity, but who also can punish me emotionally when, too comfortable (see the up-coming post of Mistress Natalia), I made the worst kind of mistake. The challenge at the strip-club then appeared as a playful recreation compared to the blunder I made and the emotional stress that followed. I can only be grateful to Mistress Natalia for how She helped me go through this intense moments of my submission. To know more about it, please keep reading. I hope you find this instructive as much as I did and that it amuses at least as much as I ached.

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5/12 Day 9

Yesterday morning as I was writing my log, Mistress Natalia arrived online unexpectedly. After checking I was wearing my chastity device, that I have been getting a hard time to put on since I am slightly aroused when I start putting it, she wickedly  but also deliciously teased me. My arousal restricted to the size of my device cage  ended pitifully to be just desperate convulsions of my penis and abundant leaking, leaving me frustrated but at the same time extremely excited especially after the nice words from Mistress Natalia I definitely fall deeper for… She left as she was making me guess something about how I am and what makes me  special to Her eyes and I am still unsure of what it is….

Later, I saw Miss Rosa who promoted me to the rank of “Guide” at DS, a sort of junior Mentor. I was happy to see She is pleased with me to give me this responsibility.
But more importantly, yesterday I looked for a strip club in NY where I can go to. According to Yelp and some other reviews, the best place to go to is something called “Rick’s cabaret”. Another good one is called “Penthouse Exclusive Club” but it opens only at night and it’s for me more difficult to go in the evening. I could invent a lie to my wife with the pretext of a professional dinner but that makes me very uncomfortable …. and I might keep some residue of women scents on me when I return home just after that….So it’s better if I go in the afternoon….

Otherwise, yesterday as I will today I kept the device locked up with the actual lock all day so about 10 hours in a row. I felt the lock swinging slightly when I was walking and the vibration echoing with the feeling of being owned by Mistress Natalia aroused me a few times. I feel so happy to be Hers…

Now that I read what I wrote earlier, I cannot send this log without saying the terrible thing that happened today.

During a conversation at DS with a Divine, bitchy and lance , I fucked up and recklessly say some joke saying something I should not have. I was clearly not thinking and Miss Rosa is furious and so much pissed at me that she even de-friended me. I am devastated. Knowing what could have been the consequences of  my reckless and stupid chit chat makes me sick. Losing Miss Rosa’s trust and friendship is irreparable and knowing I have probably disappointed Mistress Natalia is crushing me even more.

5/15 Day 12

After a terrible night, I logged on Saturday morning and talked a bit with Mistress Natalia about what happened on Friday. She was of course disappointed by what happened but She generously told me “she would clean up my mess” which of course means also she will “rub my nose with it” as she said.  However she kindly said nice words so that I can relax for the rest of the day which I did. I felt very grateful of these simple words which showed she really cares for me.

I also spoke with Miss Rosa who generously got me back into her friend list. I did not stay long after writing a NC explaining my analysis of what happened  and I wrote another one about the conversation with lance. Miss Rosa appreciated what I wrote and how I analyzed the situation. She today generously told me that all this was almost behind us and that Mistress Natalia and Her decided they will go easy on me because of my genuine repentance. She also told me today lance and I will be auctioned next month at Dominion. I feel proud that they think I am worthy enough for that but I am nervous about the terms of this auction…whoever auctions me, I will miss Mistress Natalia during the interval of time I will be serving someone else….

The rest of the Saturday was well spent. I went to an Indian restaurant with my wife and then we enjoyed some time in Central Park. At night, we went to the movies and watched “The Man who knew infinity” about the romantic figure of S. Ramanunjan who was an Indian mathematician of the 1910’s. It was quite moving and very accurate of the life.

In my reflection about my blunder, I thought of an analogy between being a slave and playing the game of chess. In that game, there are usually two human opponents but one can also play against a computer. A computer never make any blunder or mistakes but the human does. Actually even the word champion can’t beat the computers. A slave fighting his bad habits, his male ego or entitlement and working to follow the rules given to him by his owner is like the human chess player against a computer. Even if he works hard and perfectly, the slightest mistake will punish him. Like in a chess game where a  blunder can lead to the loss of the game even if he has played perfectly until then, the punishment is immediate. I was thinking to elaborate this analogy and write a small text for the blog of Mistress Natalia. I have thought also about a couple of other ideas that I will tell her when I see her next…

I keep missing Mistress Natalia as if She never leaves my thoughts for very long…

5/16 Day 13

Yesterday evening, I watched the film of Tom Ford “A single man” which I recommend. It was the second time, I watched it and I loved it even more this time. The visual aesthetic of the style of the 60’s, the perfect acting of Colin Firth and the amazing music of Abel Korzeniowski are stunning. The sadness is not forced nor mushy but has a transcendental beauty that is rare. I really enjoyed it even though I was impatient to come online to see Mistress Natalia who I missed despite my anxiety for what was waiting for me.

The instant I got logged in, I got what I deserved, Mistress Natalia rubbed my mess into my nose as She said and I endured Her emotional abuse for about an hour before I begged Her to dismiss me. My heart was aching and pounding all the time, my stomach was tightened and the pain would not let me  able to stay focused on anything. I had to implore Her to let me go offline so that I can try to gather some relief to be able to write the 300 words She wanted before this morning, which I did right after. I took some pill and went to bed but I could not sleep anyway. I felt a weight in the middle of my chest almost all night and probably had not more than 3 or 4 hours of sleep. Despite of the last words She told me last night, that She would not bother with this if she did not love me, despite I know I deserve this punishment, I woke up with the same weight on my chest this morning still feeling vividly the scars of the last night abuse. When I think about last night, I wondered if I am too sensitive or if I am just too much in love with Mistress Natalia making me extremely vulnerable to the slightest emotional abuse and even wonder if would  hold on better with a hundred blows of a real life whip on my back.

I wonder how Mistress Natalia feels, when she punishes me like that, what She thinks. My pain is mixed with a feeling of gratitude as I know she does this because she loves me and is confident that I can  improve but also with a feeling of guilt about how stupid I was. I still feel I have a lot to learn but I also sometimes doubt if I am made for this.  Only my deep trust in Mistress Natalia keeps me on the track in these moments even if I am confident that  I have a lot to give to make Her happy. And I hope She sees that too.

5/17 day 14

As soon as I arrived in my office I put on my chastity device and I kept it all day until 7pm just before returning home. I even kept it during lunch time and during a seminar. I was not aroused at all by anything so it did not bother me too much. I went online after my seminar and discussed with an old friend. I enjoyed to talk to her.  Then Mistress Natalia arrived. I was happily surprised as I did not think she would be online after a probably tiring flight. We talked about different things, it felt like a ray of sunlight in my day.  Under her instruction, I also went to DS. She did not stay very long there  though but I had to stay and endure the games of Mistress Seforah and Goddess Suprema who did not let me leave very easily. Each time now Goddess Suprema does that, asking me to beg 10 different times and using all the synonyms she made me look for. She can be grateful to Mistress Natalia that She has left me there at her disposal for that race game. When I eventually got allowed to log after what I think was  more than half an hour of begging without response, I was in rage of frustration. When I arrived back online yesterday night she had left me this offline.

[20:08] Goddess SUPREMA (jayjurak.zheng): (Saved Mon May 16 19:20:39 2016)french fry…I am very strict on you bitch.. because.. you have good potential to serve..  and elevate the sim . too..as I say this..I am disappointed you not participate in race but that was My Apprentices call.. I wanted you to be in race..

I think that was actually the reason why she would not let me go….there are worse things than that of course, but as Mistress Natalia said it…I might not be not the perfect slave for DS. Anyhow, I went to DS to greet Miss Rosa and she asked me to “fuck the hole” of declan. So I did the RP of fucking declan as I dominated him harshly when as the same time Miss Rosa was humiliating the hell out of him. It was fun and declan told me right after that it was hot and that he enjoyed a lot how Miss Rosa and I were onto him…As it was late, I went to bed shortly after that.

Last night, I got several strong throbbing arousal (and leaking without touching) when I thought of Mistress Natalia and how I feel more and more owned by Her and progressively completely deprived of my will, but yet serene as I trust Her.  I also thought of what I have to do today (the visit to the strip club) and it did not help to calm the arousal but only mixed it with anxiety….

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5/18 day 15

So, I went to Rick’s cabaret on 33rd street. I am writing this as I am just back from there.  I am still a bit drunk because I got 2 strawberry cosmopolitan’s and one glass of Cabernet. I was a bit anxious before going  there but not too much. I took the subway and got off at Penn Station walked one block and got to the Entrance of Rick’s. The body guard looked at my ID and led me to a table after I checked my  jacket. I was not very far from the dance floor where a half naked slender girl was dancing. The room was not totally empty but there was no one between me and the dancer and the girl was like dancing for me.
She was very sexy with brown curly hair, beautiful legs and small breast but I could not see her face in the half-light.  At one point, she took off her bra and throw it at me. When she walked to my table later, she said she wanted to check me up.  Not much later, a sexy waitress half Vietnamese half American came to my table. She sat next to me and was very sweet, showing me the menu, touching my arm or legs which sent chills in my body and twitches in my locked-up cock. I ordered food and a Cosmopolitan and started to relax and to enjoy the show.
A few minutes after she stopped her shift, the girl from the dance floor came to me said a few words and since I was having some food she said she will come back.  Like the waitress, she touched my arm and my legs in a natural and sweet way that made me feel extremely comfortable. Not long after I finished my calamaris another girl came to my table and asked if she could join me –  An extremely sexy brunette with blue eyes who was wearing a blue bodysuit and fishnet pantyhose.- we chatted up a bit and then she offered a lap dance. My heart raced but I agreed. She was sweet, sexy, and hot with a perfect tanned slender body with beautiful breasts.  She sat on my lap, flashed out her tits in my face, rubbed her ass and thighs on my crotch, touched my chest caressed my neck. She also let me touch her as I was holding her waist, ass cheeks and even tits.  It was very exciting but so frustrating at the same time. My penis was twitching without being able to get hard. I felt pathetic and frustrated especially as she was rubbing her leg on my crotch intentionally I could not feel what she was trying to do on my locked up cock.  She did not say anything but she must have felt what was between my legs or thought that I had a particularly small penis…even if she suggested we go to a private room at the end…I felt a deep humiliation inside.

Later on another girl from Panama came to my table and chat me up. She was not as beautiful but she was talkative and we chatted quite a bit after what I got another lap dance that was impossible to refuse although she was far from being as attractive as the previous one. I kept enjoying the show as I was finishing the last drink I had ordered. Some other girls came after but I declined the lap dance…it could have lasted all afternoon and I could have tried more girls but I would have just been more frustrated.. However I was not expecting there would be so much touching, that the girls would be so much friendly and engaging. Over all the girls were young beautiful and sexy but sounded a bit superficial. It was sweet, cool and relaxing  but  at the same time also extremely frustrating and humiliating ….I need to say that the most I got excited was when I was thinking of the reason I was here and of Mistress Natalia of course. Also, it showed me as, if I did not know already, that vanilla does not excite me as much as D/s. These almost 2 hours with those sexy girls all around me, were not half as exciting as having the attention of Mistress Natalia whose tremendous attractiveness leaves me always the weakest as does the pure thought of being her property.

I want to finish this post by saying I am extremely grateful to Mistress Natalia to have given me this challenge. It made me feel even more that I am Hers and unable to imagine to do anything but what she tells me to do. When She gives me a challenge such as this one, I can’t think of not doing it. It puts me in some predicaments that I crave to overcome to please Her by doing what She expects. Just the fact She desires something from me is a privilege that is always source of excitement. What makes me even weaker is that She seems to have no doubt that I will obey. Her confidence disarms any resistance I could have before it even appears.

5/20 Day 17

Yesterday, I saw Mistress Natalia after almost 3 days since the last time as She has been busy with work. I was so happy to catch up with Her on everything and have Her feedback on what I have been doing…in particular the field trip at Rick’s cabaret. I felt happy to see She was so amused by my report and She generously promised me a reward. The best reward is to see Her happy and to spend time with Her no matter what we are doing. But She asked me to choose what I wanted to do this afternoon and I opted for some bdsm time. She then decided I will be Her pain slut for a session and asked me to get ready for it.
It made my heart pounding but went out to get the small “nasty” binders and the rubber band she wanted to use on me.

At my return, She was with Miss Rosa at the new land and I joined them. During the conversation, I unintentionally said something that made me sound testy with Her making the up-coming torture/punishing session entirely justified. Back at Hellfire, heart pounding, I waited patiently for Her as She was dressing for the session. She appeared 5 minutes later with the sexiest red lace underwear and my heart races even faster. She quickly  made me hang by the wrists on one of the Hellfire device and made me put (in RL) the binders on my nipples. The bite was hard and sudden and almost cut my breath. The pain and the thrill to do this for Her made me shake and sent twitches in my caged cock. The binders kept biting as She asked me to put the strong rubber band around my genitals to make it snap hard on them at Her commands. It was quick inflected pains that hurt sharply and more each time. She made me do it many times as she was interrogating me or giving me instructions and it hurt like hell but I loved and was absolutely happy to see Her purr from what I was enduring. She also again brought up my hole to be plugged and I felt a twitch in my cock. The all session was intense and very erotic, the only worries I had was to get visible bruise on my nipple which were hurting but that was easier to endure than the hardest snaps of the rubber band. I kept the binders more than half an hour and when Mistress Natalia made me removed them it hurt even more for a short time. The hours later and even this morning I have kept feeling my nipple extremely sensitive  to touching.  I also noticed bruises on my scrotum from the elastic band snaps but I am proud and happy to have them as a gift from Mistress Natalia. When I removed my chastity device later, it was all wet making quite obvious I am Mistress Natalia pain slut now…

About my chastity state, every night, I am having those throbbing arousal when I think of Mistress Natalia and my submission to Her. Yesterday morning my arousal was so intense that I had a hard time to have my penis go down. It is extremely sensitive and I am dying to touch myself at times but I have no will for it. I am chaste since 2 weeks and a half and I am proud to be for Mistress Natalia. My penis is Hers as is my heart and my soul.  I have no desire for an orgasm if she does not want to. I will hold it as long as She wants. Hopefully my body will not be too difficult to tame. My penis grows and hits the cage boundaries when I am writing this….

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5/21 Day 18

Yesterday would have been a wonderful day, spending time with Mistress Natalia and moving in at her house, if I did not act stupidly in greeting or rather manifesting my presence home to Her in an inappropriate way when I arrived online at night. Even if my intention was just to be playful, it was displeasing and inappropriate  the way I did it. Knowing Mistress Natalia was unhappy made me feel awful and has ruined my mood for the weekend. I was so happy she invited me to move in Her house that my joy and enthusiasm took me off balance and I obviously got carried a way. I am ashamed of this faux pas. I should stay aware that each time She allows me closer, the privilege she generously gives me implies more duties and in particular I should be more careful and attentive.

I feel like I am walking up on a tightrope, approaching slowly closer to Her and that at each step I slightly lose balance from the excitement and I need to adjust my pace to not get carried away. I do not want to fall as it would be profoundly devastating…

I was particularly overwhelmed emotionally last night also because I forgot/did not think to ask permission to Miss Rosa to distribute the notecard I had prepared for collecting the opinions of the Divines about the topic of a blog post I am preparing. The justified anger of Miss Rosa combined with the unhappiness of Mistress Natalia achieved to put me in a completely depressing mood and I asked permission to go offline. Needless to say I did not sleep much and that I still feel a knot in my stomach.

I feel completely vulnerable with my fate in the hands of Mistress Natalia who I love and the closer I get to Her the more I crave to make her happy.

5/23 Day 20

The week-end went smoothly and It was somewhat enjoyable but my mood has mainly been  and still is under the shadow of what has happened Friday night. I have had the chance to see quickly Mistress Natalia on Sunday after my return from the gym but it was mostly frustrating since, I did not have much time to speak with Her. I also talked to Miss Rosa Sunday evening about the reasons I should have consulted Her regarding the interview project and how I must be more consistent in asking permission to Her regarding actions that are related to DS.

My chastity state is making me more and more itchy (when I see a sexy silhouette in the street or if my penis rubs some fabric for example)  even though I had no special reasons to be excited this week-end  probably because of my mood. I suppose that  after almost 3 weeks without release it is to be expected that my body starts to be itchier. I did not have any trouble to wear the chastity device to day though. It has become almost a routine now like a normal thing I have to do as my penis belongs to Mistress Natalia as well as my arousal.

My soul is uncertain and pessimistic. My heart is aching.  I feel a bit more broken and I am more vulnerable than ever. I listened to “Stillness of the Mind” by Abel Korzeniovski on my subway ride this morning.

5/25 Day 22

Monday was again a difficult day for me. I went from being on my own  to being emotionally abused in the morning and in the afternoon.  After the emotional stress of the last few days that I did not process well, it felt like my reason got blurred and my ability to be efficiency was going down, making me more subject  to get into trouble for stupid reasons. Retrospectively, I should not have been so down since I now have the brand of Mistress Natalia on my avatar through the knife of Miss Mancipia. That is a symbolic gesture that means I am loved. But I was so emotionally tired and my mind was so confused that I was a bit lost when I logged off in the evening. Later that night, my friend Lance who is much more experienced helped me to see things as they really are and not as my aching mind was perceiving them. Moreover Mistress Natalia talked to me yesterday and it clarified things even more and comforted me that I was still were I wanted, beneath her feet, to serve Her and to be trained by Her for Her own pleasure and happiness.

I feel much better now as this struggle made me understand how to deal more efficiently with these moments of emotional stress. It does not mean it will be easy but I know that eventually what matters is that  Mistress Natalia has faith in me since she puts me through these struggles how hard they are. In fact, it goes well along with what Miss Rosa said  last night “great potential merits great challenge”. So I must be prepared and I will be. I am immensely grateful to Mistress Natalia who talked to me yesterday in such an accurate way as she firmly gave me  what I needed. It made me think deeper and understand better how to process my training. It has deepened my faith, my love and trust in Her. Being her property is definitely what I want from the bottom of my heart. It is a rare chance that I am extremely lucky to hold. I will always remember that when I am in pain because this is the strength She has given me and that will hold me secure for the journey She has chosen for us.

5/26 Day 23
Yesterday was a relaxing day.  I did not see much Mistress Natalia as she wanted some alone time. I missed Her but then I took the opportunity to do some tasks regarding the #maleentitlement project of Miss Rosa  and the slave auction project of Miss Seforah.  I have seen also Deloreen who wanted to make the mesh head better but definitely I don’t like it and Mistress Natalia neither so I will keep my frenchy’s head 🙂 I put some furniture in my room and enjoyed the privilege to be at Mistress Natalia’s home. Later, Mistress Natalia took me for a quick shopping trip and then kind of introduced me to Miss Nicole who is the owner of the parcel. She was kind and showed me her property and it was a nice way to know her a bit more than just crossing her path at DS. Last night was a bit more busy at DS and I enjoyed the attention of Mistress Natalia and also of Miss Rosa who explained me how exhausting it is to train a slave…

I keep wearing the chastity device when I come online and almost all day until I return home. I almost don’t feel it except when I have the slightest arousal that is then enhanced because my penis twitches and touches the cage boundaries  Every evening when I take it off, it is all wet inevitably. I feel owned and totally dependent of Mistress Natalia and that solely idea just arouses me when I think of it . When in my bed, I get a full throbbing erection but when I write these words, my cage keeps my penis restricted and it hurts but it is hurts good. I can’t hide that I love that Mistress Natalia restricts me. It is now more than 3 weeks that I haven’t ejaculated and my body is getting extremely needy at times. I could try to have intercourse with my wife but I don’t as I don’t feel I am allowed to seek that. I wonder how long Mistress Natalia will keep me like this. In some sense I crave to  stroke my penis at some others I crave she instructs me to stay chaste longer. I don’t know what I want. I have lost my will because Mistress Natalia is the one who decides all about what She owns. That is how I can feel Her ownership is totally real…

5/27 Day 24

Yesterday was the perfect illustration of what Mistress Natalia told me on Tuesday morning ” it’s the pain that makes the pleasure so enjoyable”. I spent the morning in DS, mainly performing for Mistress Natalia’s amusement, first to dominate a sissy scum and then to go down on  chigley. It was a pleasure to amuse Mistress Natalia (and also Miss Rosa) and have her attention. Later, Mistress Natalia allowed me the privilege to spoil Her in a shopping spree. The fact She allowed me that privilege was very arousing and the chastity device made this a deliciously torture that I loved. Also, She has a wonderful taste for clothing  that makes me always excited  to discover her new ideas of outfits.

But the best moment of the day was the afternoon that I spent with Mistress Natalia at the sim Opium S&M. It is a bdsm kind of club but we spent a non-bdsm afternoon dancing and talking about ourselves. That kind of communication that makes us closer in deepening our mutual trust. and lay the ground to go further. Those moments are essential to me not only to get closer to Mistress Natalia which is my strongest motivation but also to make me internalize the struggles I had been through before. It makes my love for Her more intense and makes me stronger for the inevitable future struggles. The strength she gives me by allowing me close to put up with the emotional abuse is indispensable. Mistress Natalia is wonderful and amazing, She is 10 times worth the struggles and the suffering I am going through at times. I can only be grateful to become so close to Her. I am a lucky and happy slave.

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I am now in my 4th week of chastity. My penis becomes extremely aching for release and to be stroked. I have never been chaste so long. How much longer will I have to stay like this?  Only Mistress Natalia can make it stop…..I am staying strong but sometimes feel at the edge of begging to touch….